Wow, it’s been a while since we’ve gotten a question here… Anyway.

You might need to be a bit more specific. Is this side generally perceived as bad or good by people? 

Well, from what I can guess… I don’t see why it would be bad to like a side that someone doesn’t always show. Sometimes it’s the nuances of a person’s characters that are the most attractive. They’re what sets a person apart from the rest and makes them more personally appealing. And it means that you might know this person a bit more intimately than other people do. So no, it’s not a bad thing. =)

(I apologize if I interpreted this question incorrectly, this is just from what I gathered)

-Not romantically, no. If someone glances at you in class it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s from romantic inclinations.
Maybe she finds you interesting as a person. If you’re not overthinking any of this, and she actually is doing those thing, go and talk to her. Never hurts to make new friends :D- 

Yeah, it might just be a good indication that you finds you interesting. Either way, it wouldn’t hurt to go talk to her and get to know her. =)

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I hope you all are having a safe, warm, and merry holiday season. Otherwise, if there’s anything wrong, feel free to either ask us for advice or just rant in our askbox. We’d be glad to listen and help as best as we can. 

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-Ohhhh alright :)
Well… it’s pretty self explanatory what it means. He wants to be in a relationship with you, but he’s afraid to, possibly because of past experiences. Or he’s just not ready to take the next step
In this situation, I don’t think you should push him. If he’s afraid to, then just give him some time and take things slowly. I’m assuming that you two are still relatively young, so there’s no need to rush these things. Good luck :)- 

I would also try to make the situation more comfortable for him, so that he doesn’t have to be scared to be with you. Let him become comfortable with you and soon, if you two can develop more trust for each other, then he will probably take the next step. Be understanding about it, but make sure he knows he can approach you when he gets comfortable. =)

-It depends on the context. Is this about friendship vs. relationship, or is this about sex?-

Yeah, ‘pleasure. :-)
Don’t doubt yourself midway; things will go well, surely. I’m glad I helped!

Part 1: I’m falling for a boy who makes me feel beautiful and has helped me turn my life around. However, I’m scared that I rely on him too much and that my life will fall apart again if I lose him. Some days I’m completely content with just being his friend, and other days I can’t stop thinking of him and feel like I might die if I don’t tell him. Sometimes I think he might like me back, but other times I’m so unsure that I feel like I’m going crazy.

Just as if not more important than getting into a relationship as the result, telling him you have feelings for him builds trust simply by recognizing that this is something you’ve been internalizing. I imagine it’d be a good idea to not fabricate yourself; be honest and thorough, so there won’t be any miscommunication. 
Definitely tell him if you trust him, and he seems to be quite the gentleman.

Another thing is to understand if he doesn’t, and to understand if he, or anyone, says you don’t understand. All will be good. :-)

Hi everyone! We’ve successfully answered 120+ questions now and we’ve decided we’re gonna make a little change. We’re welcoming a friend of ours, Charles, to contribute to the blog to provide some male perspective. Olivia and I will still answer each questions as we normally do, but he will also add his input. All of his words will be in bold. 

We are also updating the FAQ, so soon there will be a little blurb about him so you can all understand his methods of giving advice a bit better.

I hope this will help a lot of you, since most of these questions are centered around girls asking for guy advice. 

Alright, thanks for sticking with us. And feel free to ask away!

-It’s okay, he more or less qualifies as a guy :P-

Well, there are some things to go off of by how he acts around you, but you wouldn’t know for sure unless you do ask. If you’ve liked him for four years, he’s probably pretty comfortable around you. But he also may not be actually flirting with other girls, it just may come off as such. Basically, I’m trying to make the point that you can’t fully interpret someone’s thoughts and motives from simple actions. If you really are too shy to ask yourself, you could get a mutual friend to do some snooping around for you. But having a mediator can complicate things and I would advise you to just be straightforward about it. But I guess if you can’t overcome your shyness yet, a mediator would be your best bet. 

-A mediator (aka mutual friend)?
Ahem, be warned though, don’t rely too heavily on an in-between person. If you want to be in a relationship, then accept that there’s going to have to be direct communication eventually. You can’t drag the in-between person to help with your problems each and ever time.
And most guys flirt or act in a way that comes off as flirting (I think).
Good luck with this :)- 

-He’s too overly sensitive.
Or maybe he’s just taking your words the wrong way.
Either way, you aren’t any more at fault than he is. Though you are doing a bit too much to compensate for something that isn’t entirely your fault at all-